Can I be real? It can be draining being a mom…but there is nothing I would rather do. That is why I am so thankful that I am involved in a great ministry, called MOPS, moms of preschoolers. Its literally a support group for moms, so that we stay encouraged and build friendships. I am so excited as we prepare for our new MOPS year with our new theme. We had a meeting to talk about the upcoming year and the leaders asked us to share 2 things…
What is your biggest struggle or beautiful mess (as we call it) in this season of your life? And what new thing do you want to do this year?
To answer the first question, my biggest struggle currently as a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom), is feeling content in who I am. I want to be a great wife, a wonderful mom, and a fun friend. But sometimes the little things get to me. Having a 7 month old is a job in itself, but adding a 5 year old energetic boy is like that same job, while walking a tight rope and trying to juggle several balls at once…it gets me tired just thinking about. lol:) I know I say this all the time, I am thankful for this position, as some don’t get this opportunity. But with this role, comes a lot of responsibility.
I am home most of the day and I am the type of person that likes to have a checklist on things done. The problem with this, is that after I get the dishes washed, the sink fills up with dirty dishes again. Or I get done with laundry and then there are dirty clothes. Sometimes, I feel so accomplished if I cook a real dinner! (other than chicken nuggets) Sometimes, I feel like I don’t do enough. I play the comparison game. But let me tell you, God always speaks to us, especially when we feel at the bottom.
I am by myself most of the day and eat most of my meals either standing up or solo. Because we choose this lifestyle, Stephen works a lot. For all you SAHMs, let me encourage you, this season will be short lived. Sometimes we think, “I can’t wait until they are bigger so they can do things for themselves.” However, each season has its own struggle and unique joy that you’ll never get back too. Enjoy your time with them. There is a saying I love that illustrates this point beautifully “When it comes to raising children, the days are long, but the years are short.” I am so blessed to have a great support system with my family.
To combat my struggle with contentment I was encouraged by a recent message Pastor Tony preached titled, “Embracing your uniqueness.” Here are some important points that I loved:
We need to embrace our uniqueness…when we do this, we are accepting who God created us to be. Start loving yourself the way God loves you.
Stop comparing yourself to other women. Stop listening to the world’s system on how you should look, act, or think. We all are unique, so why do we compare ourselves to others? We diminish God when we compare ourselves. We are saying, “why didn’t God created me like that?” We try to find our identity in unrealistic expectations of other people. Stop fighting the “mommy wars.” Instead, learn from other mothers and share your experiences. For example, stay at home moms to working moms. Sometimes SAHMs want to be working moms and vice versa. Know that whatever you are, God is using you and you are the BEST mother your children can have.
Start valuing everything that is unique about you. What sets you apart from others? Thank Him for your uniqueness…your physical features, your gifts, passions, and dreams. God has a purpose for you and no one can do what you can do. When we embrace our purpose, we are saying, “Lord, here I am.” Embrace your purpose not someone else’s purpose.
Okay, you might be thinking, I got that, but how do i do that?
Do you pray? Daily? Multiple times through the day? I feel as if I don’t pray hard enough or even often enough. I’m changing that with focus and encouragement from this scripture:
Why don’t more Christians have a more serious meaningful prayer life? Do they really believe that prayer works? If they did why don’t they pray more?
We need to re-think our personal beliefs about God, His promises and His power. God is truthful, All Powerful, Faithful! Many Christians don’t think they really need to pray because God knows your heart and after all He is going to work everything out for everyone’s good anyway. Repeatedly, throughout the Bible, He has commanded us to pray, offered rewards to us if we would, and pleaded with us to spend time talking to Him … and promised that HE WILL ANSWER.
It’s also a very broad question it could be anything. I answered the question by asking myself “In this season of life that you want new thing do I want to try to do?” I thought about it and said, I want to be more creative. What I mean is, I want to try to make things. I am a great graphic designer (I am embracing my uniqueness), but I want to be more crafty. This is hard for me, because I am a perfectionist. If it doesn’t look right or I don’t think I can do it, I won’t even try. But this year, I am going stretch myself and try new things. My first creative task is making some hair bows. In the future, please ask me how I am doing on this, so that I don’t get lazy or discouraged.
Ladies, what is your beautiful mess? What is something you want to try this year? Do you want to learn to sew, take cooking lessons, change your hairstyle, etc. Nothing is too small or too big, just answer honestly. I would love to hear your comments! Lets encourage and pray for one another! Love from one Moodsetter to another Moodsetter.